“Leadership, is it not something about me, it’s something about us”

Based on the “TED Ideas worth spreading” we decipher some keys about what is and what someone needs to become a great leader. The mere fact of being honest, kind or genuinely someone who wants your best is a good candidate to lead.  “Leadership is not about command and being an authority, is about creating relationships between the one who lead and the ones who follow the leader”, Kouzes and Posner propose this on The Leadership Challenge, and couldn’t be more right.

What Kouzes and Posner propose on The Leadership Challenge is the same that some many other experts in this field point out, trustworthy is a mandatory characteristic someone needs to have to get on leading, but even more important is to make yourself credible and your speech credible. How many times do we hear, for instance, a politic said “I believe on this…I want to do this…” but in fact, the lack of emotion on their words makes us feel some kind of rejection?.

The answer is too many times – always come to our mind why haven’t they practice it? Why they don’t even believe their word? Should I suppose to believe them?

We can itemise the different element participate in the speech. Knowing that is important to control the stage, the physical space we’ve got, we come across with the idea that on our way of saying it, need to be important as well. Even more, as has said on the TED, there are elements of the speech that affect intrinsically on results. Those are:

  • 38% of someone evaluation is about the speech tone
  • 7% of decisions are taken by the speakers words
  • 55% non-verbal communication

Despite the fact we are not used to work on these elements, I mean, both non-verbal communication and our speech tone, are sparingly important on decisions-making, to seduce and influence others. So if someone has tomorrow an interview, a conference, a meeting or why not? A teaching class may have more efficient results and be more productive.

As we’ve seen, 38% of someone’s evaluation are the speech tone which means that doesn’t matter how fantastic, how prepared and documented our speech is, if don’t use the adequate tone.

So “tone of voice affects how people respond to you” and in some researches for influencing others need to be:

  • Upbeat
  • Warm
  • Under control
  • Clear

An example exposed on the TED, was the case of Margaret Tatcher, who has been working with the National Theatre in order to slow down her speech’s tone. Every time she got emotional, her voice got louder and became a bit shrill – her skills were not visible and her talk was less proactive and influential.

So we realised then, the tone we use is indispensable as well as other non-verbal communication we utilize without realizing it.

“10% of the conflict is due to a difference in opinion. 90% is due to the wrong tone of voice.”